6 Months – Moving On & Self Discovery

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6 months. That’s how long it’s been since I started a brand new chapter of my life.

They say that you shouldn’t let your professional life affect your personal life. That work shouldn’t be as important as your relationships/friendships/family. But when you’re suddenly left without a job, you quickly realize just how important having a professional life can be and how it can affect you as a person.

6 months ago, I was made redundant from my job that I had held for the past 5 years. It was always something I was proud of for my age – securing a job which I not only enjoyed doing, but one that I had been able to stay at for 5 years. So many people in my generation seemed content with switching and changing, picking and choosing and trying a bit of everything before finally settling into what they wanted to do. I felt so lucky to have found something I enjoyed doing, doing it well and continuing to do it well for 5 years.

I learned that a lot can change in 5 years for a person. You learn so much about yourself both professionally and personally. But I’ve also learned how much one can learn about themselves in as little as 6 months. How much I can impress myself, looking back on what I have achieved since leaving my job in May, 2016 and how far I have come personally.

You would think that being made redundant would have broken my self-confidence and shattered my belief in myself that I could find another job that I loved just as much as the one I had. 6 months ago, I would have let my anxiety get the better of me and probably would have made myself sick through fear of the unknown.

The truth is, I do fear the unknown. I worry about not only my future, but the future of everyone I love. The difference between who I am now and who I was 6 months ago is that I realize that some things just aren’t up to us to decide. We have to be open to change, to possibility and bend when the wind tries to break us.

I’ve been working in a new job for a wonderful company for the past 4 months. Something I never saw coming, yet when it happened, it just felt right. I knew it was because I kept myself calm and positive, even though the second month of unemployment (which definitely tested my strength).

This whole post isn’t about me. It’s not about overcoming a hard time or my pride in myself for riding through the roller-coaster of change and being left relatively unscathed (although I do reflect on both regularly). I want whoever is reading this post and is dealing with hardship to know this: nobody knows what is going to happen in their lives. We have no idea what we will be doing a week or a month or 6 months from now.

I say to you, do not be afraid of change. Do not let others’ worries for you become your own. Take care of yourself, of your anxieties and your fears and do not close yourself off to change in whatever area of your life you are hoping for some kind of miracle.

6 months ago, I started a new chapter and I feel as though I am a different woman because of it on so many levels. Learning to roll with the punches that life throws at us can be tough, but once you can duck before you’re hit, things start to become a whole lot clearer and the challenge of life becomes so much more.

Try your best, take care of yourself, love yourself and never stop creating positivity within yourself.

6 months has gone and I’ll never look back.

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5 Things I Have Learned About Myself During My First Week Of Unemployment

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It’s amazing how much more attentive I have become of myself and my actions over the past week.

After officially becomming redundant from my job of 5 years last week, I made the conscious decision to use the time I have between work as a positive experience. I have been adamant that I will not let this change get me down, although I will not ignore my feelings all together because, let’s face it, losing your job is no fun. Especially when I enjoyed mine so very much.

Here are 5 things I have learned about myself during my first week of unemployment/redundancy:

  • Sleep: Here I was thinking I would get to sleep in now I don’t have a job to go to. What I forgot to think about was the fact that I have been waking up at the same time for the past 5 years straight. So, my alarm might not be set anymore, but my internal alarm is still very much on!
  • Netflix: There really is no limit to how many episodes of Jane The Virgin one can watch in one sitting. I know this because I have experienced countless moments where I have missed sunsets because I was too busy watching yet another episode (season 1 is amazing). Do you ever look up from your screen and not know what time it is because the last time you looked up, it was light out? That’s been me pretty regularly this week.
  • Job Interviews: You can do as much research about the company you are interviewing for and you can do your makeup/hair at wedding-level preciseness, but if you don’t have the ability to talk to strangers and sell yourself as a worker and person, you probably won’t be successful in your job. Remember to take a breath, smile and think about your best qualities that make you, YOU!
  • Force Of Habit: The other day I was out and about, getting a few jobs done in town. Before I knew it, I had parked in the carpark of my former workplace and was about to walk in when I realised I was in the wrong company block! I suppose taking the same route and parking in the same spot for 5 years does make a lasting impression on my memory.
  • Emotions Are Interesting: Remember what I said about not ignoring my feelings? I have definitely dealt with a range of emotions this week with regards to leaving my job and currently not knowing what is next. Uncertainty is scary thing and I have to keep reminding myself that things will get better. However, you couldn’t tell that to me when I was crying on my couch Tuesday morning in my pyjamas with a huge mug of coffee in my hands while watching TV. Don’t ask me what specific thing set me off – it just happened!

Trying to stay positive about this entire situation is helped by my willingness to get back out there into the employment world and start a new chapter. Life can be tough sometimes, but it’s during these down times that we hopefully find out so much more about ourselves than we could ever imagine.