The Difference A Year Can Make

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Well, well, well…guess who’s back?!

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Y’know…in case you didn’t get it already.

That’s right ladies and gents, I’m back, I’m blogging and I am better than ever!

A little over a year ago I began this blog as a way to find some routine and normality during what was a chaotic few months. I had been made redundant from my job of 5 years and along with the regular feelings of anxiety and self-doubt that I was already experiencing came a new level of scared and stressed. Fear of the unknown took over my ability to see things in a positive light. But writing posts on this blog managed to calm me and helped me see the broader picture: that Everything Was Going To Be Alright.

Soon enough, I found a new job with amazing people who pushed me to speak up more and challenged me to put myself out there again in a way that I had never really done before. Before long, my confidence grew – I knew what I was capable of and knew that what I had been doing for the past 5 years was just a test for the year ahead. I never realised how stagnant I was in my job and how little growth I had until I started a new chapter, looked back and re-evaluated everything I thought I knew about my life and myself as a person.

Back in October I had a special birthday brunch with my old workmates. It was a beautiful morning and just as we were all saying goodbye to each other, a few of my ex-coworkers remarked on how confident I had become within myself and among others. It wasn’t until that moment that I realised what a blessing it had been to be let go from my job all those months ago. It lead me to a new sense of purpose and a new level of inner peace that I hadn’t felt in many years.

October was 5 months ago and now, here I am. I’m still at the same job, working in a new department with a bunch of incredibly strong, funny and caring women. These women look out for each other – I am yet to see any of them turn on each other during stressful moments (trust me, there have been some stressful moments!) – and they inspire me to also be a better, stronger, more powerful woman.

My goals for 2017 include moving out of my childhood home, purchasing an upgrade to my current car, travel more to my favourite places around Australia (America/Europe/The UK will have to wait for the time being), make more time for my friends…and to continue learning that I cannot change people’s reactions towards others. The only thing I can do is be conscious of my reactions towards others.

I want my writing to reach more of you this year and to find others to talk with about the things I deal with. I want to write more about my own experiences as well as incorporate my love of storytelling and reviewing of entertainment into my posts.

So, you never really know what you’re going to get from me this year. I can only promise that I will try to be truthful with my words – after all, words are all I have for you all.

Looking forward to whatever 2017 brings. If you want to talk some more, visit me over on my Twitter, Instagram or find me on Snapchat (username: melissapisan).

Let’s make 2017 better than we ever imagined!

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6 Months – Moving On & Self Discovery

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6 months. That’s how long it’s been since I started a brand new chapter of my life.

They say that you shouldn’t let your professional life affect your personal life. That work shouldn’t be as important as your relationships/friendships/family. But when you’re suddenly left without a job, you quickly realize just how important having a professional life can be and how it can affect you as a person.

6 months ago, I was made redundant from my job that I had held for the past 5 years. It was always something I was proud of for my age – securing a job which I not only enjoyed doing, but one that I had been able to stay at for 5 years. So many people in my generation seemed content with switching and changing, picking and choosing and trying a bit of everything before finally settling into what they wanted to do. I felt so lucky to have found something I enjoyed doing, doing it well and continuing to do it well for 5 years.

I learned that a lot can change in 5 years for a person. You learn so much about yourself both professionally and personally. But I’ve also learned how much one can learn about themselves in as little as 6 months. How much I can impress myself, looking back on what I have achieved since leaving my job in May, 2016 and how far I have come personally.

You would think that being made redundant would have broken my self-confidence and shattered my belief in myself that I could find another job that I loved just as much as the one I had. 6 months ago, I would have let my anxiety get the better of me and probably would have made myself sick through fear of the unknown.

The truth is, I do fear the unknown. I worry about not only my future, but the future of everyone I love. The difference between who I am now and who I was 6 months ago is that I realize that some things just aren’t up to us to decide. We have to be open to change, to possibility and bend when the wind tries to break us.

I’ve been working in a new job for a wonderful company for the past 4 months. Something I never saw coming, yet when it happened, it just felt right. I knew it was because I kept myself calm and positive, even though the second month of unemployment (which definitely tested my strength).

This whole post isn’t about me. It’s not about overcoming a hard time or my pride in myself for riding through the roller-coaster of change and being left relatively unscathed (although I do reflect on both regularly). I want whoever is reading this post and is dealing with hardship to know this: nobody knows what is going to happen in their lives. We have no idea what we will be doing a week or a month or 6 months from now.

I say to you, do not be afraid of change. Do not let others’ worries for you become your own. Take care of yourself, of your anxieties and your fears and do not close yourself off to change in whatever area of your life you are hoping for some kind of miracle.

6 months ago, I started a new chapter and I feel as though I am a different woman because of it on so many levels. Learning to roll with the punches that life throws at us can be tough, but once you can duck before you’re hit, things start to become a whole lot clearer and the challenge of life becomes so much more.

Try your best, take care of yourself, love yourself and never stop creating positivity within yourself.

6 months has gone and I’ll never look back.

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Love Advice – You Complete Yourself

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We’ve grown up in a world where finding a partner to spend the rest of our lives with is viewed as the ideal. Romantic comedies and Disney movies alike tell us that if we want our lives to be better and happier, ending up with someone is the way to do it.

There comes a point if you’re single like me and you’ve hit a certain age, realising that you haven’t found the person of your dreams can be incredibly upsetting and worrying. You find yourself comparing your life and love life to that of your friends/family, thinking that time may be running out for you.

I have some news for you: time is not running out. The fairy-tale is far from over.

In fact, in this fairy-tale, the Princess doesn’t need a prince or princess in order to live happily ever after. The Princess does need to accept that they don’t need to share their life with someone else to feel complete (no matter what Jerry Maguire may have told you).

Finding love should not be a sport. It should not be a race. I wish that I had grown up with fairy-tales about women who found their own happily ever afters through their own self-acceptance and courage. Women who were open to love and ready for relationships, but who were also focused on other important things in life such as a satisfying career or fulfilment with her relationship with her closest friends.

If you are feeling like you’re waiting for your true love to find you, you’re not alone. Know that you are open to love, new experiences and to the prospect of finding someone to fits into your already amazing life.

The most important thing in our lives is self happiness – start by loving yourself some more and who knows just who might be around the corner.

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Let It Go

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Making the decision to stop letting certain people and things affect me as deeply has truly changed me for the better. Especially over the past month, where I have experienced a lot of change and have learnt a lot about myself in the process.

But up until recently, I was someone who let the world impact on me in a big way. I absorbed negativity and carried the weight of other people’s problems on my own shoulders. It hurt – things were getting too heavy and I was being weighed down by other people’s issues.

I have always been able to look at certain people and admire the way they juggle everything within their lives as well as being the shoulder for many people to lean on. Think about people who work as counsellors or doctors or police officers, for example. It’s these people’s jobs to be there for people during some of the hardest moments of their lives, and then they have to go back to their own lives and enjoy themselves without letting the stresses of their jobs impact too deeply.

So, how do we do it? How do we live life so that we are there for the ones we love without getting sucked into unnecessary drama, which will eventually cause us pain as well?

From my experience, it’s about stopping for a moment and thinking: Does This Affect Me? Sometimes it’s so easy to get roped into an argument between 2 people you really care about and end up feeling like you’re somehow responsible for fixing it. Or maybe you’re experiencing a horrible attitude from a co-worker, but you know it’s because they’re going through their own personal struggle and they can’t seem to control their anger. In these instances, as much as you can be there for people and show your support, sometimes it’s best to let things go.

If these issues don’t relate to something you said or did, you can make the choice to move forward. Look at the situation, decide whether to involve yourself in it and what the consequences of doing do might be.

Hey, sometimes you might hear two loved ones fighting about something and you know you have to get involved in order for things to settle. It’s important to pick your battles, speak up when necessary, but also back off and let people fight their own battles themselves.

Be open, be approachable to others who still may need your help and advise. Don’t forget to stop and think before getting involved in drama that’s bigger than you may be able to handle, no matter how big your heart may be.

In the end, caring for ourselves and our own wellbeing should always come first – even though it rarely does, unless we make a conscious effort to stop, think and decide whether to fight or let things go.

Thanks for reading,

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New Beginnings | Personal Update

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A little over a month ago I wrote a post in which I detailed some of the changes that were occurring in my life. In fact, one of the main reasons I have persevered with this blog (besides my love of writing) was to have some kind of outlet for my emotions while dealing with my life for the past weeks.

Thankfully, I have finally been able to make lemonade out of the lemons which life had thrown at me back in February and I am happy to let you all in on some exciting news:

I have a new job!

I will be starting at my new position on Monday. I won’t give too much information away (more for the reason that I don’t really know much about it yet!), but I will say that it is a temporary Executive Assistant position.

Now, I know you probably saw the word ‘temporary‘ and had the same cringed look on your face that I did. But I decided to just go for it. No more worrying or nitpicking about things. I decided that something is better than nothing. Working within a field that I have experience in, within a position which is respectable and exciting to me outweighed all the negative points I had when thinking of my options. If a full-time position becomes available in the meantime, I may take it. But for now, I am feeling happy.

I am nervous of beginning work at a new organisation. I am sure my first day will be like the first day of high school – meeting new people, trying to find my way around and eventually finding a few people I can really rely on to make my experience a positive one. I’m looking forward to learning new things, helping new people and just starting fresh. A clean slate has been handed to me and I am so ready to write my next chapter onto it.

So, I guess this little update was as much as a way for me to write my feelings down about this change as it was for me to get a message out for whoever is reading this to hopefully connect to:

Do not give up. Life is difficult sometimes and regardless of how big or small the challenge is that you are faced with, there are ways to get through and eventually get to a place where you feel relieved and motivated again. It’s a matter of never forgetting what your goals and passions are and continuing to perservere during those negative moments.

I have not completely met my life goals yet. I have so many things that I want to achieve within the next year, and I now know that with determination and hard work, I will be able to get closer to the finish line and start another marathon towards yet another chapter of my life.

I wanted to thank anyone who has sent me encouraging messages during the past few months. Your words of positivity and understanding helped push me through to the other side.

I’m off to have a glass (or two) of wine to celebrate this new chapter in my life finally beginning – I’ll be toasting to every one of you!

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International Day Of Happiness – 5 things I’m happy about

It’s the International Day Of Happiness!

Happiness can be felt in so many ways and for so many different reasons.

I am someone who tries to find happiness in every day activities and events.

Here are 5 other things that I am happy about today:

  • I have a job interview tomorrow – am I going to use this news as an excuse to shop for new work clothes? I sure am!
  • I bought some Nescafe Mocha-flavoured coffee sachets on the weekend and with the cool change in weather my morning coffee was absolutely delicious.
  • I bought my very first laptop over the weekend – a MacBook Air. I have never owned a laptop so this will be a whole new experience for me. Very excited to do more regular blogging once it’s delivered sometime this week.
  • Among my healthier grocery items which I purchased this morning, I also bought a jar of Nutella and a pack of bagels.
  • I have just finalised some plans with my cousin who will be visiting this Easter long weekend with her husband. We are very close but do not get to see eachother much, so I am very excited to see her!

Happiness can be found in events which are both big or small. It’s all about celebrating life’s many achievements and giving ourselves a pat on the back when things are going our way.

Here’s to a happy day for you all and to many moments of happiness in years to come!

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