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For the first time in over a year, I am currently on a week’s leave from work.

Why? Well, I thought it best to do it now when things are pretty quiet after Easter, as to not put my co-workers in jeopardy while they fill in for me.

What am I planning on doing this week, I hear you ask? At this stage…nothing. I plan on reading, writing, catching up on my favourite TV shows and spending time just breathing…doesn’t that sound spectacular?

After I began my job last year after  month off due to my redundancy, I was refreshed and had no desire for the rest of 2016 to take time off. Of course, there were a few moments where I had wished I could – when things got to be a bit stressful or when my personal wellbeing wasn’t at it’s best – but I carried on.

At the start of this year for about 2.5 months, my life revolved around work. My role as a receptionist in a community college during peak enrolment period really tested my patience and my ability to solve problems quickly and without fuss. It was a demanding time period, yet as I said to a fellow co-worker, I didn’t notice just how busy we were until things started to die down and the pace returned to normal.

I was exhausted. Absolutely spent. Drained from so much customer contact, from answering 100+ phone calls every day for months. Really…over it. Thankfully, my boss noticed my deflation and recommended I plan some time off. Now, I know how lucky I am regarding this – not all bosses will suggest their staff take a week off just to recharge. I saw my opportunity, weighed it against the fact that I hadn’t taken more than a weekend off (and even in some cases, I had worked multiple weekends during that busy period) in over a year and agreed.

Now, here I am. Day 2 of my official days off. Not counting the Easter long weekend, which has already left me refreshed.

I adore this time of the year. April in Australia brings on a cool change, while keeping the sunny days we love. Mornings are brighter, evenings darker earlier and sunsets much more photographic. It’s all so relaxing and cosy.

For Good Friday this year, my family and I packed up our cars and headed to our local lake for some fish and chips by the water. It was such a beautiful, cloudless day looking out onto the water.

I cherish time with my family the older I get as it’s not s regular as it once was. My childhood memories are full of family drives to the lake; piling into the car with our walkmans and Barbie dolls and setting off on an adventure across town. The drive always seemed so long – now we’re there in the blink of an eye. It’s like that with so many things these days in comparison to days gone by. I miss those days immensely.


Easter was relatively quiet. I ventured out of the house Sunday afternoon to see Beauty and the Beast at the cinema with my Mum, sister and Zia (that’s Aunty in Italian if you weren’t aware). As the original Beauty and the Beast cartoon was and is one of my all-time favourite films, I was a bit wary as to how I would enjoy the film, but I was left pleasantly surprised! Highly recommended to those who love Disney, magic, music and romance!

Autumn is all about nature stripping itself of the past as it makes way for new and exciting things. Beautiful things. It can get dark and cold, but it’s all how you look at it. Much the same can be said about our lives and the way we choose to live them.

We can run ourselves down and not do anything to pick back up again, or we can take a break to stop and take the reigns again and prepare whatever is coming next. It’s a time for change, growth and rebirth.

I, for one, can’t wait to see what the rest of Autumn has to offer.

Hoping you all had a spectacular long weekend, regardless of what you celebrated – I would love to hear all about your adventures!

Let It Go

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Making the decision to stop letting certain people and things affect me as deeply has truly changed me for the better. Especially over the past month, where I have experienced a lot of change and have learnt a lot about myself in the process.

But up until recently, I was someone who let the world impact on me in a big way. I absorbed negativity and carried the weight of other people’s problems on my own shoulders. It hurt – things were getting too heavy and I was being weighed down by other people’s issues.

I have always been able to look at certain people and admire the way they juggle everything within their lives as well as being the shoulder for many people to lean on. Think about people who work as counsellors or doctors or police officers, for example. It’s these people’s jobs to be there for people during some of the hardest moments of their lives, and then they have to go back to their own lives and enjoy themselves without letting the stresses of their jobs impact too deeply.

So, how do we do it? How do we live life so that we are there for the ones we love without getting sucked into unnecessary drama, which will eventually cause us pain as well?

From my experience, it’s about stopping for a moment and thinking: Does This Affect Me? Sometimes it’s so easy to get roped into an argument between 2 people you really care about and end up feeling like you’re somehow responsible for fixing it. Or maybe you’re experiencing a horrible attitude from a co-worker, but you know it’s because they’re going through their own personal struggle and they can’t seem to control their anger. In these instances, as much as you can be there for people and show your support, sometimes it’s best to let things go.

If these issues don’t relate to something you said or did, you can make the choice to move forward. Look at the situation, decide whether to involve yourself in it and what the consequences of doing do might be.

Hey, sometimes you might hear two loved ones fighting about something and you know you have to get involved in order for things to settle. It’s important to pick your battles, speak up when necessary, but also back off and let people fight their own battles themselves.

Be open, be approachable to others who still may need your help and advise. Don’t forget to stop and think before getting involved in drama that’s bigger than you may be able to handle, no matter how big your heart may be.

In the end, caring for ourselves and our own wellbeing should always come first – even though it rarely does, unless we make a conscious effort to stop, think and decide whether to fight or let things go.

Thanks for reading,

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