Life Advice – You Are Stronger Than You Think You Are

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Life is funny, isn’t it? Without any context, I know  you still know what I mean and I am sure you agree with me.

Everything can be running according to our plans and we can be feeling on top of the world one moment, but unfortunately with such highs also come hurtful lows.

Sometimes when we’re sinking, we are running at such a fast speed, trying to piece things back together and keep our head above water that we don’t even realize we’re sinking until we actually stop. Then it hits like a million waves…until we usually find the ability to float again.

Humans are amazing.

Personally, I’ve marveled at my own ability to push through a really difficult week, getting knocked over multiple times. But somehow, I kept getting up and only now am I able to sit and realize just what I’ve dealt with and how (surprisingly) well I’ve handled it thus-far.

During times of adversity and hardship, try to remember your strength as a person and think of other times you have been faced with challenges which you have been able to face and triumph.

It may take weeks, months or even years to fully comprehend your strength, but one day you will realize just how much perseverance you have within you. Some days it gets you out of bed, others it gets you through hell and back.

Don’t give up on yourself or your ability to conquer life, no matter how tough things seem.

Well done to you – you amazing thing!

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How Reading My Teenage Diary Helped Me With Self Acceptance

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It’s amazing what reminiscing about the past can do for your current self.

Over the weekend, in between cleaning, I came across my collection of diaries/journals I kept from age 10-21. I used them to write about anything and everything. From the boys I had a crush on, to my thoughts on friends/family and the moments in my life which caused me great heartache or joy. I guess I’ve always loved to write.

Reading entries from 10 year old me to 21 year old me, it became incredibly apparent to me how much I have grown as a person. Of course, 10 year old me would be different to 26 year old me, that’s kind of a given (and a hope). The thing that surprised me was just how much I have matured from 21-26. How my views on life/love have changed. Most importantly, how my views on myself have changed. Reading diary entries from my 20 year old self was almost as if I was reading writing from someone else.

I feel like my most important years for growth (so far) have been ages 18-22. When high school ended and I began working, trying to figure out what exactly I wanted to do with the rest of my life. I began drifting away from certain friends and also making new ones. I also experienced some extremely happy times and some incredibly sad times between those ages. They were years I think many people will agree were formative and although some days were tough to get through, I now realise, looking back, that I needed those days and those years to move closer to self acceptance.

18 year old me honestly believed she needed to find love and get married/have babies by the time she was 25-30. 26 year old me is single and although she’d love to find love, marriage/babies is the furthest thing from her mind. 20 year old me was so content with finding a job which she could do forever. 26 year old me realises not all jobs are meant to last for years and even the ones you only get to work at for a few months will teach you something about people and a lot about yourself.

19 year old me was so hurt by people she didn’t even know. She was so intent on pleasing everyone and fixing everybody’s problems, even when they didn’t necessarily need her to help. 26 year old me has (only recently) realised that she cannot help anyone without first helping herself and loving herself/taking herself to the best of her ability.

Then there’s Teenage Me. I don’t even know where to start with her! I will say that when you’re 14, friends mean everything to you and in a different way than they do in adulthood. 14 year old me trusted people so easily, confided in the wrong people and got her heart broken by ‘friends’ who were honestly probably just as selfish as she was. 26 year old me still trusts people too easily, but knows when to keep her mouth shut regarding things she doesn’t want the world knowing about. She may not have as many friends as she did in high school (who does though?) but the ones she does have would be there for her at the drop of a hat.

The person I used to be, or the people I used to be, all lead me to be the woman I am today. No matter how embarrassing some of my old diary entries are – let me tell you, there are doozies – they truly remind me how far I have come in life and how much I have learned about myself and my capabilities as an individual over the years.

Usually I talk about moving forward and keeping the past in the past. I still think that this is an important way to get through life’s struggles, but sometimes it’s important to look back and marvel at how far you’ve come. Read an old diary, look through scrapbooks, smile at old photos and even read old letters from friends you may have forgotten you had. Then, turn your attention back to the You of today and hopefully you’ll see how far you’ve come and how much more you have left to achieve for yourself.

Sometimes, in order to continue down the path of self-acceptance, we need to look behind us every now and then.

Nostalgia is a powerful thing, don’t you agree? Did you keep a diary/journal as a teen? How have you changed through the years?

Keep growing,

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Never Stop Feeling

 

It’s so hard to remain true to ourselves some days.

Just when we feel like we’ve grown up enough to be okay with the person we are and the personality we embody, this year especially seems to have tried to harden us up more than we possibly ask to be.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who grew up as a relatively shy, quiet child and had comments from family and friends alike on how ‘soft’ and ‘gentle’ I was right through my teen years. Truth be told, I never took the comments as an insult, if they were intended that way. The way I was raised definitely connects to who I am today and how I possibly come across to others personality-wise.

But I realise that others aren’t as lucky as I was. There are children out there being told to toughen up, speak louder and be the boss more than they want to. There are little girls and boys who just want to sit on the sidelines and are actually content in doing so. Teenagers who would rather go to a soccer game and cheer from the sidelines, than actually play the game. It saddens me that sometimes the world can be so heavy on us and these young people change who they are to either fit in with friends or to stop ridicule from their own family/friends.

It’s so hard to be yourself in a world where so much is happening every single day. With new tragedy being reported on our televisions/phones/computers 24/7. It’s almost as if the world wants us to harden up and just accept that we need to let these horrible events roll off our shoulders and be desensitised to it all.

That scares me. What will people be like in 10 years time if we become so used to tragedy? Will we just post a photo on Instagram and then get on with our days, knowing there are people living through horror?

The point of this post is to really reiterate the fact that it’s okay to feel. It’s okay to be affected by the death of a celebrity, or a terror attack in a foreign country, or the news of mistreatment of animals by humans, or anything else that makes you feel something.

It is okay to be emotional about someone or something that doesn’t directly affect you. It is okay to express that emotion by writing about it, or talking about it with people who you are close to. We shouldn’t have to keep the things that cause us heartache to ourselves. Because although some things may not affect some, they can affect others incredibly deeply.

Don’t lose your softness. Feel things. Express yourself. No matter how old you get – it’s okay to be who you truly want to be and not who others expect you to be.

Stay true to yourselves and feel everything. The world is so much more than what we turn our backs to every day.

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June Favourites

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Can you believe that June is basically over?! We are half way through 2016, people – NOBODY. PANIC!

I’m still getting over Christmas, and before we know it, it will be time for Santa again. I honestly believe time gets faster as you get older. That’s something I don’t like to think about.

ANYWAY, here we are again – Faves Time.

Just like last month, I don’t have that much to share with you all, however, these few bits and pieces have made my June that little bit better.

Firstly, here are some new earrings I purchased from my favourite site for cheap-ish jewellery/accessories colettehayman.com.au.

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I recently went to a friend’s kitchen tea/bridal shower (what is the official name of those parties these days?) and I was bedazzled by another friend’s earrings which I just had to have. So I got them…along with 4 other pairs.

I actually don’t know the official name of these types of earrings, but after Googling ‘Ball-Backed Earrings‘, I found lots of pics of stylish celebs wearing the trend. Basically, they’re designed so the backing of the earring is a large ball and the actual stud is smaller, creating a cool style also modelled by the gorgeous Emma Watson here:

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I thought they were a bit different, yet still quite elegant-looking and they look great with many different outfits.

Next are some makeup purchases I splurged on recently.

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I had heard about the Make Up For Ever Ultra HD liquid foundations for quite sometime leading up to my purchase of it. As an avid YouTube Beauty Guru fan, I have seen countless reviews on this product and it’s miracle-like skin covering abilities.

Now, I’m not going to lie – I have horrible skin. Since I was a pre-teen I have suffered from severe acne, which thankfully calmed down over time (touch wood). For a foundation to work for me, it needs to provide medium to heavy coverage without actually looking like I’m wearing much makeup. Hard, yes. Doable? Definitely. Over the years, through trial and error, I have found a select few foundations which I can wear which cover my acne/scaring, leave my skin appearing smooth and oil-free for 8+ hours and don’t take multiple layers of application to look suitable.

This is one of the foundations which I will be adding to the list.

Making sure to use a makeup primer first, I’ve been wearing this foundation for the past fortnight along with concealer and powder and have managed to get through my work days with little oil and no cakey-ness (new word there) to my face. I usually touch up with some powder after lunch, but other than that, it’s really wonderful and I recommend it!

Another beauty fave is what I have seen some as calling the Holy Grail of highlighting powders.

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The BECCA/Jaclyn Hill Shimmering Skin Perfector in shade Champagne Pop is…magical.

Highlighters are all the rage and have become a beauty staple since contouring became more popular over the past few years. I’ve always struggled to find a highlighting powder which doesn’t have extra colour to it, sometimes making my skin appear pinker or white.

This powder comes in a beautiful golden shade which looks amazing when applied to the cheekbones, cupids bow, brow bones and the bridge of the nose. The best thing is that only a little is needed to get the glory look you desire – which is especially great, seeing as it’s not cheap.

I think this powder would even be great if mixed into your tinted moisturiser for a really luminous, natural glow (I remembered it’s Summer overseas, lucky ducks!).

Onto entertainment faves, this is a show that I’m sure many Aussies have been catching up on over the past month.

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Offspring is an Australian dreamed set around doctor Nina and her family/friends/lovers. The show is comedic, but also has so much heart, it’s hard not to fall in love with the cast!

There were 5 seasons of this show, with a 2 year break. The very exciting thing is that Offspring is returning for a 6th season, tomorrow night at 8:30pm on Channel Ten!

Something else that many Aussies as well as the rest of the world have probably discovered over the past month is the book Me Before You.

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The film adaptation of this book was released this month to mixed reviews and before I see the film, I decided to read the book.

The story is about a woman named Louisa who is suddenly left jobless and takes on a job of caring for a young quadriplegic man named Will who seems stubborn and resentful at first, but eventually he forms a bond with Louisa.

It’s a love story with serious subject matter, and I cried while reading it. It was beautifully written and I cannot wait to see the movie! (I need to remember to bring a tissue box with me, though!)

Final June fave item is my monthly Spotify playlist which includes the tracks which were the soundtrack to my month.

There are some radio-staples which you may have heard being played on a loop, along with some lesser-known tracks which have made their way into my music-adoring heart:

Also, Adele’s album 25 is now also on Spotify, so if you haven’t heard it, you definitely need to check that one out!

Well, that’s all from me for this month.

Thanks for sticking with me through another post and for visiting my blog! Your support and feedback is always encouraged.

What are your favourite items from June? Let me know below!

Until next time,

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Let It Go

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Making the decision to stop letting certain people and things affect me as deeply has truly changed me for the better. Especially over the past month, where I have experienced a lot of change and have learnt a lot about myself in the process.

But up until recently, I was someone who let the world impact on me in a big way. I absorbed negativity and carried the weight of other people’s problems on my own shoulders. It hurt – things were getting too heavy and I was being weighed down by other people’s issues.

I have always been able to look at certain people and admire the way they juggle everything within their lives as well as being the shoulder for many people to lean on. Think about people who work as counsellors or doctors or police officers, for example. It’s these people’s jobs to be there for people during some of the hardest moments of their lives, and then they have to go back to their own lives and enjoy themselves without letting the stresses of their jobs impact too deeply.

So, how do we do it? How do we live life so that we are there for the ones we love without getting sucked into unnecessary drama, which will eventually cause us pain as well?

From my experience, it’s about stopping for a moment and thinking: Does This Affect Me? Sometimes it’s so easy to get roped into an argument between 2 people you really care about and end up feeling like you’re somehow responsible for fixing it. Or maybe you’re experiencing a horrible attitude from a co-worker, but you know it’s because they’re going through their own personal struggle and they can’t seem to control their anger. In these instances, as much as you can be there for people and show your support, sometimes it’s best to let things go.

If these issues don’t relate to something you said or did, you can make the choice to move forward. Look at the situation, decide whether to involve yourself in it and what the consequences of doing do might be.

Hey, sometimes you might hear two loved ones fighting about something and you know you have to get involved in order for things to settle. It’s important to pick your battles, speak up when necessary, but also back off and let people fight their own battles themselves.

Be open, be approachable to others who still may need your help and advise. Don’t forget to stop and think before getting involved in drama that’s bigger than you may be able to handle, no matter how big your heart may be.

In the end, caring for ourselves and our own wellbeing should always come first – even though it rarely does, unless we make a conscious effort to stop, think and decide whether to fight or let things go.

Thanks for reading,

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May Favourites

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For the past few months I have been sharing my music favourites with you all and I thought I would continue with that tradition as well as adding a few extra faves for this month.

Keeping that in mind, here are a few (and by a few, I mean the bare minimum) things I have been enjoying during May.

 

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Revlon Ultra HD Matte Lipcolors

Matte lip creams are all the range right now and I had tried to keep my distance due to their drying finish on the lips. However, I recently saw Zoella talk about the Revlon Ultra HD Matte Lipcolors and she raved about their staying power as well as their moisturising finish on the lips.

After much deliberation and waiting for a sale at my local Priceline store, I bought 4 shades and I really love these! They apply to the lips very much like other lupcreams do, and while there is a degree of mattifying, there is a tiny amount of sheen left on the lips to keep the product feeling fresh and coach-free all day.

There are a range of shades including the perfect pink/mauve colour, a’la Kylie Jenner as well as deeper, berry-tones which are perfect for the warmer weather (in Australia).

 

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FitBit Charge HD

With impending weddings of 2 close friends later this year, I have really been making an effort to get fit and healthy this year. Partially to look good in wedding photos and partially because I want to live an active lifestyle and take care of myself.

Along with healthy meal choices, I have been upping my exercise and really challenging myself to meet goals and have fun with my workouts (if you’d like to know what kind of workouts I have been doing lately, let me know and I will do a post about my favourite things!).

So, I invested in a FitBit and let me tell you – this thing is amazing. Not only is it a pedometer, which helps me keep track of my daily step counts, but it synchs to an app on smartphones in which you can record your calorie intake, your water intake, your weightless goals and it even synchs and records the workouts you do to let you know the calories you burn. You can use the app as a food log, you can use it to see how many flights of stairs you have taken each day and you can even record your sleeping patterns with it!!!

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Pretty cool, huh? I’ve found that the app makes me more accountable. Especially when I participate in group step challenges with friends who also have FitBits – nobody wants to see their name last on the leader board!

 

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Music

How awesome was May when it came to new music? There have been so many new songs released this past month and I have been so happy to listen to them all on my Spotify playlist.

The Billboard Music Awards was on last week and there were some amazing performances by some incredible artists. My fave was definitely Troye Sivan’s performance of ‘YOUTH’.

It just makes me so happy to see him living his dreams and enjoying every single moment of it!

I’d love to know what some of your favourite things were for May! Let me know in the comments section below, or link me to your own post so that I can check out your blog!

Let’s make June our best month yet!

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5 Ways To Get Organised At Work


Since starting my new job last week, I have had organisation on my mind. I wanted to begin this new chapter with a clean, tidy and organised work life, and although sometimes things can get hectic, I feel I have managed (and will hopefully continue to manage) the art of organisation within the workplace.

Here are 5 quick tips on how to organise yourself so you are getting the most out of your workspace and work time…

  • Write lists

Something I have done for years (since I was in high school) is write lists. Whether it is a list of things I need to complete for the day, week or month, I find that writing things down at the start of the day/week/month can be really helpful in getting things out onto paper. Take a moment each morning while you drink your first of many coffees for the day and write down the important tasks you need to complete/start on. When you have completed a task, cross it out – it feels so satisfying to see your list decrease as time goes on, and it also keeps you up to speed in the instance of someone asking you for a status report. If it’s crossed out, it’s done!

  • Prioritise

Taking the above List tip to another level is the art of prioritisation. Write your list and then take a moment to go through your tasks and have a think: what needs to be done ASAP? What can wait a day? Number your items from 1 (most important) to help you organise what you need to achieve. Another really important thing with prioritisation is speaking up and asking questions. If 3 people give you work that needs to be done ‘ASAP’, sometimes asking when exactly the task needs to be done can help ease stress. Sometimes people are happy to wait a day or two for things and others need things arranged right away. Speak up so that you aren’t caught in the middle of a rush that may not be needed.

  • File

Group your paperwork into files and store them in the same spot. Same goes for digital files on your computer/laptop – the easier you group things together, the easier it will be to find them in future. Be basic with what you call your files (for example: Invoices, Bank Statements, Customer Records) and then break things down further if you feel it works better that way (for example: Invoices – May, Bank Statements – 2016, Customer Records – A-C). Remember to be very basic with the names you give your folders/files so that finding files in future won’t be a headache.

  • Use Microsoft Outlook’s ‘Calendar’and ‘Tasks’ Features

Take advantage of the tools you have to schedule and plan your days. Once you get the hang of Microsoft Outlook’s Calendar and Task features, it is so easy to not only keep track of your own productivity, but others’ as well. Calendar allows the user to create events and invite other attendees to the events, creating an event on their calendar as well. You can send Tasks to others with instructions on what is needed to be done and the date which it should be prioritised for. Once the task has been completed and ticked off, you will be notified. I find it really worthwhile to use whatever calendar feature your computer may have to really set out what time you are using.

  • Keep Tidy

This is really a given, but it needs to be said – clean up. Tidy your desk. Wash your coffee cup. Put your waste paper in the recycling or use it as note paper. File away books and bundle up your spare pens. The tidier your office/deskspace is will help you in the event of a stressful day and will hopefully make it easier when you are desperately needing to find a certain thing. Take 5 minutes at the end of each day to tidy so that you can arrive to a clutter-free area the next morning.


So, those were some of my tips on getting organised within the workplace. I’d love to know what your top tips are – a girl can never been too organised! Or maybe she can!
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