Love Advice – You Complete Yourself

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We’ve grown up in a world where finding a partner to spend the rest of our lives with is viewed as the ideal. Romantic comedies and Disney movies alike tell us that if we want our lives to be better and happier, ending up with someone is the way to do it.

There comes a point if you’re single like me and you’ve hit a certain age, realising that you haven’t found the person of your dreams can be incredibly upsetting and worrying. You find yourself comparing your life and love life to that of your friends/family, thinking that time may be running out for you.

I have some news for you: time is not running out. The fairy-tale is far from over.

In fact, in this fairy-tale, the Princess doesn’t need a prince or princess in order to live happily ever after. The Princess does need to accept that they don’t need to share their life with someone else to feel complete (no matter what Jerry Maguire may have told you).

Finding love should not be a sport. It should not be a race. I wish that I had grown up with fairy-tales about women who found their own happily ever afters through their own self-acceptance and courage. Women who were open to love and ready for relationships, but who were also focused on other important things in life such as a satisfying career or fulfilment with her relationship with her closest friends.

If you are feeling like you’re waiting for your true love to find you, you’re not alone. Know that you are open to love, new experiences and to the prospect of finding someone to fits into your already amazing life.

The most important thing in our lives is self happiness – start by loving yourself some more and who knows just who might be around the corner.

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Weddings – 5 Things You Need To Know

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It’s been a while, and I apologise!

My life currently is a bit of a shamozzle, with things happening both professionally and personally that are out of the ordinary and are taking a bit of getting used to. Because of that, I just haven’t found a nice block of time to write. But, I’m here now!

This past weekend was special for me. I was invited to attend the wedding of a dear friend of mine and was even asked to do a reading, which I was nervous for, but also very excited! It was the first wedding I had attended where I wasn’t part of the bridal party, and the second I had ever attended during my adult life.

Since weddings aren’t a regular occurrence for me, there were a few things I learned that I thought I would share with you incase you’re not a wedding veteran either:

Take Photos

This one is pretty obvious in a world where camera phones are part of every day life. Take photos of the bride and groom, the guests, the band, the flowers, the food…weddings are such a special celebration, you may as well remember as much of it as you can. Photos can also be a wonderful gift to the bride or groom as a Christmas or birthday present, so be creative and capture those memories!

Don’t Drink Too Much

Weddings are different to bachelorette parties, where everyone is expected to get a little rowdy and probably do some pretty embarrassing things. There’s nothing worse than making a fool of yourself in front of your best friend’s Nanna, or that boy you had a crush on in year 2…be smart – have fun, but don’t be too silly.

Eat Something 

I learned this one the hard way! You may have a full morning of hair/makeup appointments, but make sure you take a moment to eat something. Whether it’s grabbing a banana on your way out the door, or stopping for a yummy smoothie before you put on your outfit, food is important! Your headache from not eating anything for hours on end will eventually catch up with you and will surely make celebrations less fun if you go with an empty stomach.

Be Social

Weddings aren’t about sitting around a table playing Pokemon Go with a friend all night until it’s time to go home. Make the most of being in a room with some people you probably don’t see all too often and say hi. Introduce yourself to those you don’t know, and catch up with friends you do. Dance, sing, laugh and add to the overall atmosphere of the event. You don’t want to look back in 20 years time and wonder why you didn’t enjoy yourself more at such a special moment in a loved ones’ life.

Wear Comfortable Shoes

Again, I learned this one the hard way as well (I have done this a few times, unfortunately!). Plan your outfit based on 2 things: weather and comfort. If you know it’s going to rain, bring a jacket and if you know you will be dancing all night long, bring a spare pair of comfy flats! I can’t tell you how many events I have gone to where I think my heels are reasonably comfy, only to be in agony 2 hours into the event without a backup! You can always take your shoes off to dance, but if your wedding is being held on grass, remember to wear block heels, or sandals to stop yourself sinking. By the end of the night, nobody will be looking at your feet, they’ll be too busy dancing to care!

 

I’d love to know what your words of advise are for attending a wedding!

What is a moment where you’ve been caught out and thought ‘I wish I had planned ahead for this!’?

Until next time,

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Life Advice – You Are Stronger Than You Think You Are

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Life is funny, isn’t it? Without any context, I know  you still know what I mean and I am sure you agree with me.

Everything can be running according to our plans and we can be feeling on top of the world one moment, but unfortunately with such highs also come hurtful lows.

Sometimes when we’re sinking, we are running at such a fast speed, trying to piece things back together and keep our head above water that we don’t even realize we’re sinking until we actually stop. Then it hits like a million waves…until we usually find the ability to float again.

Humans are amazing.

Personally, I’ve marveled at my own ability to push through a really difficult week, getting knocked over multiple times. But somehow, I kept getting up and only now am I able to sit and realize just what I’ve dealt with and how (surprisingly) well I’ve handled it thus-far.

During times of adversity and hardship, try to remember your strength as a person and think of other times you have been faced with challenges which you have been able to face and triumph.

It may take weeks, months or even years to fully comprehend your strength, but one day you will realize just how much perseverance you have within you. Some days it gets you out of bed, others it gets you through hell and back.

Don’t give up on yourself or your ability to conquer life, no matter how tough things seem.

Well done to you – you amazing thing!

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